By Ashish Arora on July 30, 2015
Whatever happens, happens for a reason
Why I had to leave that job? Why I lose place in that important competition? And, why my relationship came to an end? At times when something disappointing event happens, we find ourselves caught by such gloomy thoughts. Further, these questions appear in mind again and again. And the life seems to be regretful, distasteful and awful. If such incident did not come up, we would have been living a happier, healthier and beautiful life!
Whatever happens: Stop brooding and ruminating
No… absolutely not. First of all, life is not bed of roses. If these events did not take place in your life, there would have been some other similar incidents for sure. If not today, then some other day. Life is a mix of good and bad events, and soft and hard times as well. You have to face those events and times patiently to finally come out of it as a stronger and better person. Furthermore, every event is supposed to be a learning experience for us. Whatever happens, happens for a reason.
Now, think about the bloody job that you had to leave because of that cheap office politics. Were you really happy in that job? Isn’t leaving that place and starting from scrap has been a better, learning and eventful experience for you as a human being? Yes. You were not born to waste your life and skills on such nasty and ungrateful people. Instead, you are here to do greater things in life, and this is the time you focus on the things you are passionate about.
New avenues opening up soon
Can a competition make your life healthier, anyways? Don’t you think you were not fully prepared for that and still there was need for more practice? You must think in that way. It’s a positive signal for you, and in a way, you are more prepared for the next such competition. Because this time you already have an experience of these things. Moreover, adding your experience to your skills, talent and practice, you have more chances of coming out as a winner next time.
And why don’t you move on from a relationship that never even existed? Were you expecting a beautiful with such an un-meaningful relationship? If there had been some meaning in that relationship, other person could not have gone far from you so easily. You were living worthless moments with a wrong person. Finally, walking away from those people has opened new doors, from where you will be able to step in meaningful and beautiful moments of life.