By Ashish Arora on April 14, 2012
Learn to say no
Do you find yourself saying yes for every demand whether it is valid or not, without considering its right and wrong aspects? The demand could be from your friends, family members, neighbors, bosses, clients, business partners or other stakeholders. If yes, this is for you.
In your personal life, sometimes your family members tell you this should be done in a way you are doubtful about. However, you say yes to them. Or your friends ask you to go to a party or place you really dislike, but you say yes. Or your neighbor says you should follow such and such society rules which you are against off. But, you again say yes.
You must learn to say no
In your professional life, in line with corporate culture, you obviously have to say yes to your boss. It’s a norm, whether you are a government employee or working in a private company. Your business partners dominate you in the meetings, you don’t argue and just say yes to their decisions. You meet your clients and they ask you for a number of changes in the project. And you don’t want to lose them, so you say yes.
You again say yes to a number of stakeholders in day to day life. In market, at hobby centres, on roads, at parking, in office, in society and everywhere you go. Whether you do agree or disagree with them. Whether you are sure or unsure about fulfilling their demands. You are committed or not, you mean it or not, you will say yes. You don’t say no. It’s not in your dictionary.
You cannot say yes every-time
Think again. These are your own personal and professional matters. This is your life – personal and professional. You must give more importance to your own views if you have any. And I am sure you do have your own views. Don’t say yes every time when your instinct is saying no. Your yes will have a nil value if you don’t know to say no.
